Transient Friendship

Well I’ve nearly failed on the BlogPals19 challenge on day two, because I’m not writing what I had planned for the day and it’s late.

So what do I mean by ‘Transient Friendship’?

Well I guess it’s the sort of person I am, I have never made long lasting friendships and quite frankly do not have deep enough friendships that stand the test of time. I’ve periodically thought about why I am this way especially when I see other people enjoying the company of close friends.

So this afternoon, we had a surprise visit from my old college friend, Jools. We were close drinking buddies, skinned our knuckles keeping our old bangers on the road and went on holiday together. He was the best man at my wedding. The last the we saw each other was back in 2008. Over ten years ago but the effort has been largely made by him to keep in touch. Needless to say we caught up quickly about our lives to date, ate a meal and then talked a little about old times with Jools reminding me of many things I had forgotten.

It’s not that I don’t want to have separation but I don’t feel the need to keep a friendship going. I am actually happy to talk to strangers, learn a bit and leave at that. As a result I have literally no friends I see regularly.

The question is am alone in this? Comments below, please!

2 thoughts on “Transient Friendship

  1. That’s interesting! I have a wide net of “friends” but few super close friends. Being a military brat, I changed friends every 3 years when my dad got reassigned to a new base. Consequently, I had to learn how to make friends fast and I usually go fast and deep. I’m probably like your friend, I love keeping in touch with people and writing letters and such, but if the sentiment is not returned, I lose interest quick. I saw my best friend ever a few weeks ago. I hadn’t seen him in 33 years!! I have a few other close friends – most of them my military buddies whom I’ve shared hardship with so the bonds are pretty deep. I think you’ve unknowing identified why close friendship is important – they will have you remember your history. As Baz Luhrmann wrote in “Wear Sunscreen”:

    Understand that friends come and go, but for t
    he precious few you should hold on
    Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
    because the older you get
    the more you need the people you knew when you were young

    Another cool saying about friendship is this: there are two kinds of friends: one you’d help move furniture; the other you’d help move a body.

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